By Nisandeh Neta

In the beginning, marriage sex was outrageous and passionate - it took over your body and your mind.

But a few years down the road, during the journey of your relationship, sex life has gone from the intense, steamy stage to the routine, lukewarm stage - or even worse, the frozen tundra stage.

If this is the case, your overall relationship is in jeopardy as too many marriages break up as a result of insufficient intimacy and too little sex. 

And then it's time to spice up your love life, relight the fire and bring passion, excitement and fun back into your sex life.

Variations on a Theme

Like ice cream, sexual pleasure comes in an amazing range of flavors - and everyone has a favorite. But your marriage sex suffers when you insist on always going back for more of the same.

Just varying your marriage sex routine in simple ways is enough to excite you and your partner into passionate lovemaking.

Actually, simple variations on a familiar theme seem to be the simplest and most effective way to spice your marriage sex life.

Dressing yourself in seductive lingerie to look and feel sexy is a simple way to light a fire under your love life.

Changing positions is another excellent way to increase your pleasure and to stir things up a bit. The Kama Sutra, or any other sex manual, can give you ideas for fresh new ways to get entangled with your lover.

Or, take a whole new approach to marriage sex. Learn more about Tantra - the art and magic of sexual ecstasy.

It's Not the Destination That Counts

Give each other long, slow, and sensual massage. Explore every inch of your partner's body with your fingertips. But refrain from having intercourse.

For married couples in particular, sex without intercourse seems almost illegal, like the beginning of an affair.

Sharing fantasies with no obligation to act on them encourages creative erotic thinking, deepens understanding and intimacy, and helps you imagine each other in new sexual ways.

The fantasy you develop together becomes your mutual mental foreplay for the next date. You'll get in the mood much faster simply because you'll have that hot fantasy ready to spark your libido.

Kinky Stuff

Kinkiness, ranging from slightly unusual to downright bizarre, is also one way to get your brain and genitals all fired up.

Role playing, erotic talk, discussion of fantasy and striptease are sexy games that will transform any routine marriage sex into a hot, passionate love affair.

If you like the idea of these kinky games, but have never been a real dramatic type, you can ease into it by wearing sexy clothes/lingerie that you wouldn't normally wear.

Sexy music might also help you to let down your hair and get into the game. Try a red light bulb to add some exotica to your bedroom.

And most importantly, laughing and joking about it will make it easier, without taking the sexy punch out of it. Teasing and playing is a great way to keep your marriage sex alive.

And Most Important... Make Sex Your Priority

Make time for sex - busy as you may be, make lovemaking a top priority in your marriage.

Preferably, increase the frequency of your sexual encounters.

Studies show that lovemaking elevates the levels of brain chemicals associated with desire. So the best way to increase your hunger for sex is to have sex...

Those are only a few of the tips, exercises and ways to arouse, tease, inspire and stimulate your sex life, included in the best-seller email course - The Art of Lovemaking.

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Article by Nisandeh Neta - Since 1996 Nisandeh have worked with more than 4,500 people in workshops and individual counseling sessions - dealing with relationships, intimacy, and sexuality issues.
He is the author of the Art of Lovemaking - a 52-week email course guarantees to bring the passion back into your relationship.

More information available here.